I use Cookie Apocalypse. It's really nothing to worry about. Once you get your first cookie, you are transported to Tina's bunker and can disable all the things like confetti, bodies exploding, loot engrams, etc. It gives you two short quests and after that, it doesn't affect your game much. Enemies sometimes drop cookies, but they are only misc items and don't really affect immersion(assuming that's your issue). Everything else is optional. The cookies can be traded for various things in her bunker like a few weapons, the New-U, a node that gives you a bunch of options in settlements, and you can even trade cookies for HP/AP upgrades.
What do you not like about the mod?
I don't really do "new you" mods, but one mod I use has it as a side feature. I'm not sure if this is a mod you would want, but it does have that feature.
https://www.nexusmods.com/fallout4/mods/20485
Zombie Walkers. It has an optional feature that when you die, you switch over to a random settler from one of your settlements. You can go track down your body and pick up your loot.